Which is better, being right or being at peace?
In the middle of a conflict with a friend or a loved one it is easy to lose perspective and forget this question, but with practice you can create healthy relationship habits that carry through even the toughest times.
1) Keep the conversation solution-centered.
Many times in an argument, both people push each other to only see the problem - one person harps on a mistake or a bad habit, and the other person becomes defensive of their behavior.
Instead, focus on the possible solutions that will minimize drama and place you and your loved one on the same team, not pitted against each other.
2) Conflicts repeat themselves.
Many arguments grow from recurring conflict. Perhaps you and your loved one fundamentally disagree on a sensitive subject, or they handle situations differently and it rubs you the wrong way. Engrained differences in character and perspective can lead to a loop of end;less arguments. Fighting about it again and again does not usually resolve the root of the problem.
Try bringing the conversation to the next level -acknowledge that you both may never be on the same page about the issue.
3) Forgiveness.
Sincere forgiveness can be a tremendous relief and a simple strategy to overcome conflict. Remember everyone is human, makes mistakes, and comes into relationships with a different perception of the world and their place in it.
